Something that I've always wondered as a Christian woman is, what do I do when I get feelings for a guy? Technically if we really understand our roles as women, pursuit of dating relationships is not part of them. Now the problem with feelings is that regardless of whether or not we want to show the guy that we are interested, our actions will reflect it anyways, it's just an unfortunate part of life, or fortunate depending on your situation. After just recently dealing with some feelings that God has graciously taken from me after I surrendered them to Him. I wondered, well if this happens again, what am I supposed to do about it?
A Christian website called boundless.org has lots of good and helpful advice thankfully and I want to share it with you.
The first question when I get feelings for someone is naturally, does he like me back?
The answer makes sense, if we have to ask this question, he probably doesn't because like girls, guys tend to show their affection naturally, we can't help it, it's virtually impossible to avoid.
So what do we do with our new found feelings?
Well first of all, we as women have a responsibility to protect our hearts and be wise with them.
"Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" - Proverbs 4:23
If we have feelings for someone who is not pursuing us, it would be unwise for us to indulge in those feelings.
Song of Songs puts it this way, "Do not awaken love before it so desires." As a generation of women drunk on chick flicks, we want romance to happen so badly we allow ourselves to fantasize about relationships that have no founding.
So my solution?
Personally, it's a mixture of the information above, being wise with my heart and surrendering my feelings to God. I've discovered that if I really desire God above all else, I will choose to not let silly distractions like feelings get between us. Besides, if we do act upon our feelings, we are likely to be left broken-hearted. Patience in this season of life must be something that we as women must learn. Yes, we will make mistakes but God always works despite them so I will put my trust in Him alone. :)
